Understanding & Controlling Anger is one of the most difficult thing in the world and I bet that we all are a prey to its consequences..As the saying goes.. Thing that starts in anger ends in shame..
Many of us must have already gone through such situations.. We yell when we are angry and say unwanted things to loved ones. Then when we get calm we realize we shouldn’t have done it..
“Anger makes your mouth work faster than your mind. “… But once spoken .. words cant be taken back.
But what makes us to shout, did anybody know this.
I didn’t know till i saw something interesting told in a different way….Read the article…you will certainly enjoy it……….
A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’
‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint.
‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.
Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’
Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’
The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more,else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.
I agree that situations overtake all the above principles. But no harm in trying to follow it at least.
If its in your mind.. U never know.. U may overcome impulsive anger one day..
And you wil be glad.. that u ever read this blog…:):)
“ANGER IS ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER”